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How to Deal with Erectile Dysfunction in a Relationship

Most married couples hope to enjoy a satisfying sex life for decades. However, maintaining an erection can become more difficult for men as they get older. But the truth is that even young men in their 20s and 30s may also have problems with sexual performance due to psychological issues such as stress and anxiety.

Many problems with middle-aged and older men have to do with health conditions and medication use. Men may suffer from some degree of erectile dysfunction due to diabetes, which can damage nerves and blood vessels necessary for a man to maintain an erection. Medications such as antidepressants and beta-blockers may also be to blame.

Still, it’s best to get to the root cause of the problem, and this may require a trip to the doctor. This can be embarrassing for many men, but you’re not alone.  In the United States, 18% of men have erectile dysfunction. Low testosterone is a common issue, regardless of age. So, if you’re a man struggling with sex, talk to your doctor. Your partner will appreciate it. It could save your relationship. 

Tips for Dealing with Erectile Dysfunction 

Whether you have erectile dysfunction, or your partner is the one dealing with it, you are both likely to be frustrated with your bedroom activities. Here are some ways to deal with it:

  • Don’t take it personally. As the partner, you may feel as though your husband doesn’t find you attractive anymore. That is usually not the case. 
  • Take the pressure off. With sex, there is a lot of pressure on the penis. This can make your partner feel especially nervous, making it even harder to get an erection. Instead, focus on something else. Oral sex and toys can be helpful. 
  • Try something new. Sometimes spicing things up in the bedroom can stimulate arousal. Increase foreplay, look at sexy photos, read something erotic, or introduce toys into the bedroom. Put on some sexy lingerie. Doing something new will create desire and hopefully make an erection more forthcoming. 
  • Support your man. It can be nerve-wracking for your partner to go to the doctor and explain the situation. Show them your support by going with them. 
  • Be patient. If your partner is taking pills such as Viagra or Cialis to get an erection, that’s a good start. However, an erection won’t happen on demand. It may take some time (and a lot of foreplay), so be patient. 

Contact Us Today

Erectile dysfunction can be frustrating in a relationship. Each partner blames themselves, which only makes matters worse. With the right medical help, you can enjoy a fulfilling sexual relationship with your partner for many more years. Seek help from a New York doctor from Lazare Urology. We’ll assess your situation and help you find the right treatment so you can regain your confidence in the bedroom. Schedule a consultation today by filling out the online form or calling (718) 568-7516. We serve the Brooklyn area.

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